Bullying

I had goosebumps all over my body while reading the story of Amanda Todd. She was a Vancouver-area teenager who was bullied online and in school. She then committed suicide just recently when she couldn’t handle it anymore. Before it took place, she posted her story on Youtube for everyone to see that she once thought she could be strong and face it all. She’s hoping that her story will inspire others battling bullying like she was.

You know I am very much against suicide. But with Amanda’s story, I can fully understand the reason why she thought ending her life would solve her problems. Her tormentors were relentless! I can’t even begin to imagine the kind of terror she’s lived in! Those bullies are monsters! They are evil! How they could have done it to a teen and others still being bullied as of this writing is something I can’t ever fathom. Why waste your time and energy bullying someone when you have your life to manage and think of? Why not focus on yourself? I just can’t understand!

To those suffering from bullying…

Do not let them win! Do whatever it takes to stop the bullying. Report it to authorities. Tell your parents or elders about it. Be vocal about the bullying and reach out to others. Do not let it rule your life. I know it’s hard for me to say this because I am not in a position of being bullied but the old adage that there is light at the end of the tunnel is true. There is an end to the bullying. Do not let those bullies win!

And to those with love ones being bullied…

Make sure the victim is protected especially if we’re talking about a minor. If protecting the victim would mean a change of identity, a change of cities or even countries, and giving the minor a sabbatical from school, then so be it! Do whatever it takes! Do not let those bullies win!

Parents and elders/guardians…

Listen to your kid. If you see signs that the kid is troubled, take the time and go out of your way to know what’s going on. Dig deeper if you feel there’s more to the story that what everyone’s saying. Make sure that your kid knows he/she can reach out to you and tell you his/her problems, whatever it is! Do not let a day go by without asking your kid how he/she is. And if your kid goes online, safeguard him/her by putting firewalls and guidance for its use. Reiterate the need to NOT trust strangers especially on the internet where anybody can pretend to be somebody so easily. DO NOT TRUST STRANGERS!

And a reminder to everyone…

Stop taking photos of yourself in compromising situations because one way or another it will come out and get taken advantage of by bad people. You don’t want to see your naked self plastered on the internet, right? So if you don’t want that, do not take a naked picture of yourself!