What does it really mean to be a Mother?

Being a mother is not only just biological. You may have given birth to a dozen children but it will never make you a mother unless you truly nurtured each one of them, took care of them the best way you know how, and treated them as your own. I’d like to think of it that way because I’ve seen neglectful mothers and I’ve seen the nurturing ones, those who really go out of their way to show their children the love a mother has for her child.


Let me tell you two mothers that I personally know.

This woman came from a broken family. She actually didn’t know what being a parent was because she grew up being taken cared of by aunts who were also too busy to really take care of her. She grew up thinking that being a mother was just a part-time job. Her mother was like that to her. She got married, had kids, and was struggling the whole time to be the best mother to her kids. But she did. She didn’t know it but she was the best mom her kids knew. No, she wasn’t perfect. She had her misgivings, lots of it, but she gave her all. She sacrificed a lot, gave her food when there’s not enough, didn’t buy anything for herself so her kids would have much. She died young but her kids remembered a great mom who loved her own with all her heart.

Another woman became mom to two kids. She was the best. She served her kids, spared them from household chores, even gave them water when they could easily fetch it themselves. She was a “spoiler” mom, easily the coolest mom, if you wanted one like that. But her kids grew up different. They were good kids but they were too dependent on their mom for everything. Even the oldest one, who was already married, was still dependent on his mom for almost all his family’s expenses. She was a great mom but the kind of parenting she applied was questionable. Right?

Both women were great moms. Did they exemplify the kind of Mother you would want to have?

What does it really mean to be a mother? I think both of them did a good job at being a mom. I also think that mothers apply different kinds of techniques in being a mother, depending on what they saw from their own moms. Also, depending on what they feel they should do when faced with situations a mom needs to address.

I am not a mom. I do feel I was one to my siblings since our mom died young. I should say that I did my best in being a mother figure to them but nobody can replace our real mom.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms and single dads in the world!!!

Love your kids, nurture them, give them the best possible care you can give. Your kids will remember every little affection shown them, not the material things you gave in lieu of being a parent. Keep that in mind.

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Start Feeling Better About Yourself Fast

If you don’t feel absolutely awesome in yourself, then you need to take action. It might sound cheesy or cliche, but you should be your best friend. You’re the only one who has to live with yourself forever, so you should learn to like yourself! Here are some pointers that will help you to learn to like yourself, or feel better about yourself, quickly:

Start Taking Play Seriously

The problem a lot of people have is taking work more seriously than play. Work earns people money and helps them to live, and play does not – so naturally, people don’t prioritize it, and it falls to the wayside. However, you’ll feel so much better about yourself and your situation when you take play just as seriously as you take work or home cleaning. Play is important as it’s great for your overall well being. It’s great for stress relief, enjoyment, and simply forgetting your troubles for a while. Try a hobby you’ve always wanted to try, or spend more time doing the things that you really love.

Learn A New Skill

Why not learn a new skill? When you set out to learn a new skill, you tend to break out of your comfort zone and begin to feel far more comfortable in your abilities. You may surprise yourself, and realize that you’re capable of far more than you could have ever imagined.

Wear Clothes You Love

The clothes we wear can have a direct impact on how we feel. If you’re wearing lounge clothes each and every day, you’ll likely feel lazy. If you wore a suit to work, you’d probably feel far more productive. This isn’t to say you should go to extremes, but there’s a nugget of truth when people say ‘dress for the job you want, not the job you have.’ As clothes impact the way we feel, they can impact how productive we are. Wear clothes that make you feel great and like getting things done no matter what.

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Take Care Of Your Appearance

Spend more time on your appearance. You don’t have to slather yourself in makeup every day – not at all. Simple spend more time grooming yourself and doing what feels good. There are plenty of resources online that can help you to take care of your hair for next to nothing, like this resource here. Going to a salon is great, but not always affordable. Make sure you have a great skincare routine, too. Take care of your teeth and nails. Let your natural beauty shine through!

Take Some Time For A Pamper

Run yourself a bath and spend more time in it than you usually would. Paint your nails. Moisturize your skin with something luxurious. Spend time pampering yourself once or twice a week. Don’t just save it for special occasions!

Spend Time With People Who Lift You Up

We become most like the people we spend time with, so if you’re spending time with people who are constantly negative about themselves, you’re probably going to feel the same, eventually. Spend time with those who are positive and lift you up!

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It’s All About Giving Back

Any successful small business will know that being a part of the local community is essential. You need their support if you hope to get ahead with your company as, believe it or not, the local community can have a huge impact on your small business. If you can pick up right away that you can use the local community to your advantage, then you’ll be able to compete with the big dogs in the same industry you are in.

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It can be a challenge to squeeze in any more than you already do into your day, and while you probably already have door-to-door fundraisers going for a local charity with a company like Global Faces Direct, you need to think about how you can give back to the locals around you. Doing good deeds are necessary in your business if you want to be looked upon favourably by the community. So, with that in mind, here are some of the best ways that you can give back to your local community and spread the word about who you are.

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Promotion. You may be a business in the local community, but you aren’t the only small business out there. Making a point of helping out the other local businesses by promoting their brand on your website, your social media and even in your physical offices by having business cards to hand will work well in two ways. Firstly, you’ll be able to reach new people and you’ll link up with business owners such as yourself.

Participation. You’ll notice, as a small business, that there is a lot going on in a small community. Holiday food drives, bake sales, summer fairs and all to raise money for the community as a whole. You need to participate, put your hand into the budget and donate your time and your staffing to get involved. Yes, it will cost something in the budget, but it’ll also help you raise more sales.

Sponsorship. It may not always be the case that you have your time to give, but you can spare some budget and sponsor an event. Marathons and running events are widely available and you can sponsor a runner – especially if you are sponsoring a member of your own company to run! It’s a fun way to show your support and give back to the local community.

Volunteer. You are a business, which means you are skilled at doing something for the world around you and you’re good at it. Volunteering your time and your skills to a local cause can be a great way to drum up a little PR in the local papers and radio and it can also be a part of your giving back. Being able to do something for others is amazing, it’s just a bonus that you’ll get more exposure for it.

Your small business is a vital part of your community and it’s so important for you to show your support to the residents and give it back to them where you can.

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6 Signs You’re Not Quite As Young As You Once Were

There aren’t too many things in life that are a sure thing, but we can say two with a reasonable degree of certainty: you’ll have to pay tax, and you won’t be able to stay young forever. There have been some people in history who have tried to slow down or halt the passing of time, but without success. Even now, there are some billionaires out there funding the research. We all want to stay young and beautiful forever! But when do you know when you’ve officially crossed the threshold, and can no longer be classified as young? We take a look at some telltale signs below.

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Moaning About The Youth

If you from time to time find yourself muttering the phrases “kids these days…” then there are two things you should know: you’re joining a long list of people (they’ve been saying this phrase for hundreds of years!), and you’re probably getting to the point where you’re more of a wider older man or woman (even if you’re only twenty-five…!) than you are a spring chicken. It’s worth keeping in mind that not everything the youth are doing is terrible…though some of it unquestionably is.

Your Clothing Style

When we’re young, we all want to look our best, and we’re willing to make a pretty big sacrifice – our comfort – to make it happen. But there comes a time when we’re less concerned with how we look, and all we want to do is feel comfortable. If you’ve suddenly found yourself more than OK with running to the shop in whatever clothes you can find, then you’re probably in the older crowd. But hey, this isn’t all bad news – being OK with not always wearing the latest fashions is a sign of maturity.

Skin and Hair Issues

You might be able to mask your aging by wearing young clothes, listening to hip music, and so on, but you can’t find what’s going on with your body. But while your skin may look a little older, and you may have a need for hair growth shampoo or hair dye, there are things you can do. Protect your skin from premature aging by avoiding spending too much time in the sun, having a robust moisturizing regime, and avoiding excessive alcohol. For your hair, there are always those shampoos, and using hair dye gives you an opportunity to try out a new color!

You’re Feeling Tired

When you’re eighteen, it feels like you could go out all night, and then work all day, and then return home and do the whole thing all over again. By the time you reach your mid-twenties, those days are a thing of the past. If you’re feeling tired after a day of work and a few hours of socializing, then there’s nothing to be overly concerned with – you’re just a little bit older! If you don’t like this feeling, then don’t settle for it. Doing things like yoga, avoiding foods and drinks that make you tired, or even having a cold shower can give the energy boost you need to make it through the day.

You’re Less Active

Ah, to be a child, forever running around with your friends, playing sports, and spending hours on the playground. We were always moving! Fast forward a couple of decades, and you could say that the opposite is true. We’re sitting down more than we’re standing up! But it doesn’t have to be this way. We just have to force ourselves to sit less and move more. Find an activity you like, or cycle to work – it’ll do wonders. If an eighty-year-old can climb Everest, you can get up off the couch.

What’s Hip?

“I used to be with ‘it,’ but then they changed what ‘it’ was,” so says Abe in The Simpsons. And it’s true; when we’re young, we’re kind of intuitively plugged into all the cool bands, sayings, and everything else that makes up popular culture. When we’re older? It’s all like a foreign language. But actually, being plugged in isn’t so difficult. If you read a few of the popular online magazines, you’ll have a general feel for the zeitgeist, and hey – some of it really is very good!

The Ultimate Weapon: Your Attitude

In the end, you can’t stop growing older, but you can retain your youth – in your mind! If you have a young attitude, then you’ll always be able to stay young. Remember, some people are old at twenty-five, some people are young at sixty-five…!

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Do you love your job?

There are a number of things I’ve learned over the past few years that I keep in mind and remind my love ones of. One of those things is the following…


Confucius said that if you enjoy what you are doing, it stops being a job, a chore, a responsibility. What you enjoy doing becomes a normal part of your daily routine, your life. I do believe that.

You know when I was still in high school, I wanted to become a journalist. I am not a great writer but I love writing with a passion! I knew then that if I could get the proper education, I would be fairly decent in my writing skills. My mom had other plans for my future. She told me that it would be better for me to take up Accountancy. She said that there would be more jobs waiting for me if I become an Accountant. She’s right! I got a lot of job offers even before I graduated. I was able to start as soon as I passed the board exams. I forgot that I wanted to become a journalist for a while because I learned to love my profession.

But you know what? My love for writing was not diminished. It is still here even though I am writing numbers more than words. I am still an accountant but I went back to my first love which is writing. I realized that there are just some things in life that can make you happy even though you are not getting as much financially as you want to. That’s writing for me. I love it so much that it doesn’t feel like work even when I am spending hours and hours laboring over a paper. I also felt this way in doing accounting work but maybe because it wasn’t really my first love, it diminished over time.

Do you love your job? This is a simple test that you can do to know for sure. Spend more than eight hours doing your job and if you are not smiling anymore by the end of the day, you better find something else to do. Or stop and look into yourself if what you’re doing is still worth it.

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