No, I didn’t get hospitalized. But a friend’s mom is currently in a hospital attached to tubes and a ventilator to keep her alive. And it is reminding me of how hard it is to have a love one get sick and be hospitalized. First of all, the worries whether your love one will get well or worsen. You are stressed out, worrying what the doctor will tell you the next time he/she drops by the hospital room. You are also stressed out about the increasing hospital bill!
When my mom got diagnosed with a rare kidney disease, our journey in and out of the hospital began. Regular medical check-ups with three specialists, laboratory tests at least once a quarter, numerous trips to the pharmacy to get her supply of medicines, and, of course, the several times a year of confinement. You can just imagine how much we spent every month for three years to make my mom as comfortable as possible. Can you also imagine what would’ve happened to my mom if we didn’t have enough money to pay for all her medical expenses? She probably died sooner.
And, you know what? That is the usual scenario with most Filipinos who don’t have health cards, health insurance plans, or deep pockets. Sick love ones suffer in their homes because the cost of hospitalization is high. An admission into a private hospital will cost you 10,000 pesos (roughly US$235). If you are only earning so much and is living from paycheck to paycheck, where will you get that amount?
I really hope that the day will come when the government will find a way to make hospitalization affordable for all Filipinos, especially for the poor.
I am getting sick and tired of all these news of violence by individuals who should know better than to inflict pain towards others. Why take the law into your own hands when you can go to the police and let them handle the situation, right? I understand majority of us don’t trust the police anymore but if we take the law into our own hands, what would become of our society? We would go back to the dark ages when every person carries something to defend himself! Do we want that to happen? I don’t. I am sure you don’t want to as well.
I am not saying that I am a saint. I must admit that I am not really kind, too. But I am a person trying to live a decent and peaceful life. I try to be patient towards others. A little patience goes a long way. Trust me. A lot of crimes are committed just because a person’s impatience got in the way. I am also trying to be considerate and sensitive towards others. It’s not easy. Some people can be assholes. But when you think about it, a little consideration, a little sensitivity, can save lives.
I remember a quote I read that goes like this… Be kind to others. Every one of us is going through a situation. Something to that effect. And you knows what? It’s true! I remember being so grouchy, touchy, and a tad more unkind towards others when my mom was sick and in the hospital fighting for her life. If someone was unkind to me that time, I don’t know what would have happened to me. I was rude to others and half the time I wasn’t even aware of it. It was only after my mom was buried when I realized just how bad I was during the period my mom was very sick. Of course, I know it wasn’t an excuse. I am not making excuses for my actions. What I am trying to say here is that half the time most people are unaware of their actions because they’re minds are elsewhere. We are all undergoing a situation and a little patience towards others, a little consideration, is the kind thing to do.
We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
We should keep in mind that attitude makes a huge difference in any kind of situation. And it is something that we can always control.
Let us all say NO to violence! Let us always choose to be kind even when the other person doesn’t really deserve the kindness. It’s not for them but for our own peace of mind, anyway. And for the world to be a better place to live in for all of us.
We can start with our neighbors, you know.
I am praying for everyone to be safe and dry in their own homes. The bad weather won’t let up but I know it will and very soon. Meanwhile, enjoy the bed weather.
Pray for everyone’s safety.
Stock up on food and clean water. Charge all your gadgets (cellphones, laptops, rechargeable lamps and flashlights), buy batteries, candles and matches.
And don’t go out unless it’s truly necessary.
My family and I are very much affected by news reports of break-ins in residential areas. Whenever there’s a news like that, we would watch it and make sure we check the safety of our own home.
Can you imagine someone breaking inside your home while you are all inside either sleeping or unaware of the danger lurking inside the very place you thought you’ll always be safe in? It’s scary!
No wonder almost every home have grills or something similar to it to protect entry points into the house. Windows, doors, and even open garages and parking spaces are being protected by grills. I don’t like the feeling of being ‘imprisoned’ inside my home. But if it will keep me safe from the dangers lurking outside, then I will gladly put up with it.
I was going through Facebook pages I liked when I came upon this article in the Female Network about the Bureau of Internal Revenue (BIR) to require online sellers to issue receipts and pay taxes to the government.
So the BIR is already targeting the small players who earn minimal profit. The small players who are mostly housewives, students and jobless people who try their best to earn enough to cover their monthly bills, and for the case of students, their monthly school allowance.
I wish the BIR would do something over the big-named Filipinos who employ the best accountants and auditors to cover their tracks in avoiding taxes. Instead of focusing on the small players who are just trying to earn a bit to help their families.
Before anything else, let me convey my condolences to the family of the UP student who committed suicide over tuition. I know how painful it is to lose a love one and how hard to carry on with life without them. I pray for understanding and strength for the people she left behind.
But let’s get on with the real reason why I am writing this post… suicide. The University of the Philippines student committed suicide because she was told to go on a leave of absence (LOA) as she couldn’t pay her Php10,000 tuition fee (approx. US$250). I have read somewhere that there might be some other stuff in the student’s mind when she took her own life. It might not be just about the tuition fee. You know what? Whatever the reason(s) was(were), suicide should never have been her only option. It’s just tuition fee! She could have worked part-time to save money or she could have approached a government institution, a local government official, or a non-government organization (NGO) to ask for help. But, no, she opted to kill herself over not being able to finish the semester. Let me note here that she was a freshman student and she could have had years ahead of her to finish college.
I am not being insensitive here. I know the student might have been depressed. Her mind might have been compromised somehow. But you know what’s irking me? The people around her didn’t even rally behind her! They could have told the poor girl that there was still hope for her to finish college and she just needed to wait a while. One setback was nothing compared to the many obstacles that she could have faced ahead of her. And the successes awaiting her! It’s a little problem that could have been solved easily with the help of so many people!
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